What is the dumbest thing my children have done? Well, I think of my daughters and there are significantly fewer dumb things that have been attempted when compared to my two boys. Paul and Gabe. Paul is four years old and quite the kid. He loves to punch everything. He still punches things, but he slowed down after he punched his wood bed and hurt his hand. Then there is Gabe. Gabe is two years old and into everything. He especially likes to climb into small spaces. The other day I found him in the pots and pan cupboard eating fudge with his dirty diaper in moms biggest pot. Some things a parent just has to shake their head.
I have begun writing this blog with the topics that come out in the book of Proverbs. Today’s topic is a tough pill to swallow. If you are wondering, I am referring to Proverbs 1:20-33. It is necessary that we remember that the first section of Proverbs is written from father to son with the intentions that his boy will grow up to conduct himself wisely and verse 8 puts in the importance of listing to your mother’s wisdom. When reading verses 20-22, I just have to smile. Within these verses, I reflect at all the times my wife has instructed my children by using both their first, middle, and last names. “Paul Thomas Ramsdell, you get your finger out of the light socket this instant!” Or, “Gabriel Leonard Ramsdell, you get off the counters right now!” Now I am going to write these three verses out, but I am going to substitute my wife’s name into the verses. Picture a mother talking to her two young boys.
(20) Wisdom (Brittany) crieth without; she uttereth her voice in the streets (don’t run across the street): (21) She (Brittany) crieth in the chief place of concourse, in the openings of the gates: in the city she (Brittany) uttereth her words, saying, (22) How long, ye simple ones (boys), will ye love simplicity? and scorners (Paul) delight in your scorning, and fools (Paul again) hate knowledge?
I write these verses out because this is what every mother does, and this is how every child acts. I do not know of a single mother that wants their children to fail, but we have to face the facts here… when children are young, they do some pretty dumb things and it is difficult to get them to keep anything between their two ears.
Talking a look at the rest of the passage, you will read some pretty harsh language as wisdom speaks to the simple, scorner, and fool. Once again, these passages are rich when you picture them from mother to children.
(23) Turn (reject my wisdom)you at my reproof: behold, I will pour out my spirit unto you, I will make known my words unto you. (At this point I am picturing Brittany saying, “Let me make myself clear.”) (24) Because I (Brittany)have called and ye (boys)refused; I have stretched out my hand, and no man regarded; (25) But ye have set at nought all my counsel, and would none of my reproof (you kids just won’t listen): (26) I also will laugh at your calamity; I will mock when your fear cometh (don’t come crying to me)….
The other day my wife was in her bedroom putting some laundry away and Paul and Gabe were out here in the dining room playing while Laiyla was doing her homework at the desk. This is when Gabe decided to crawl up onto the table after being told not to over 1,999 times. Paul thought it would be a good idea to give Gabe his toy John Deere Rideable Lawnmower. Gabe gladly accepted the challenge and got on. He rode the lawn mower to the edge of the table and went right off the edge only to crash and smash his face directly onto the floor. Brittany heard the crash and ran out of the bedroom to see what had happened. The first words out of her mouth were, “How long, ye simple ones, will ye love simplicity…” not really. That phrase actually translated to, “What in the world were you thinking?” Brittany then cleaned Gabe’s bloody nose and held him till he stopped crying.
Having children is difficult at times. As they grow, our methods as parents must also change. We must continue instructing them in everything with the intentions that our children will be wise when they move out of the house. As our children continue to grow, their idiotic behavior will change into more complex idiocy. The difficult part is letting our children fall and get up on their own. I would even venture to say that this part of parenting is the most heartbreaking. I wonder how many parents have watched their children fail and let them dig themselves out? The situations are endless.
The remainder of this passage has to do with failure in life as wisdom steps away and allows them to learn through the hard lessons of life instead of a mother’s instruction.
(28) Then shall they call upon me, but I will not answer; they shall seek me early, but they shall not find me: (29) For that they hated knowledge, and did not choose the fear of the LORD: (30) They would none of my counsel: they despised all my reproof. (31) Therefore shall they eat of the fruit of their own way, and be filled with their own devices. (32) For the turning away of the simple shall slay them, and the prosperity of fools shall destroy them.
If we look the hard lessons of life in this passage, here are a couple paraphrases… “Then shall my boys call me to help pay rent, but I will not answer.” Or “My boys will come home with kind words to say in hopes I can bail them out of a situation, but they will find no help from me.” Why? “Because they hated the knowledge that I tried to teach them and they did not choose to fear the LORD.”
Each child has the opportunity to listen, learn, and become wise. Through listening, children can learn how to live on their own when they move out. However, if they do not take the instruction of their parents, they will end up learning a lot of hard lessons. Just know, as a parent, there are times when the best thing to do is to let your children fail. This may be the only way they learn to heed your counsel.
Just to let you know, we still have to tell Gabe to stay off the table.
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